Hello and welcome to The Connection Couch!
Let go of sexual shame and experience pleasure without guilt or fear
Feel Close, Safe, and Confident in Your Intimate Life Again.
Sex Therapy & Relationship therapy in Scottsdale, AZ + Online Across Arizona, Minnesota, & UTah
If intimacy, sex, or connection feels hard right now, you’re not alone. I help couples and individuals heal painful sex, low desire, sexual anxiety, sexual trauma, and BDSM/Kink-friendly therapy — grounded in compassion and zero shame.
If you’ve been feeling far away from yourself or your partner, there is support—and you don’t have to navigate this alone.
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Who I support
I help couples and individuals in Scottsdale and across Arizona & UT who are struggling with sex, intimacy, or connection. Many people come to me when they feel stuck, confused, or unsure how to fix things on their own.
I support people dealing with:
Painful sex or “Why does sex hurt?”
Avoiding sex or intimacy because it feels stressful
Performance anxiety or fear during sex
Sexual shame, guilt, or worry
Sexual trauma or medical trauma that affects intimacy
Emotional disconnection or feeling far apart
Fighting about sex, shutting down, or avoiding the conversation
Step one:
We talk about what’s going on in a calm, supportive space. Nothing is “too much” or “too embarrassing.”
Step two:
We look at the deeper reasons sex or intimacy feel hard — stress, trauma, pressure, fear, or emotional cycles.
Step Three:
We create a plan to help you feel safer, calmer, more confident, and more connected over time.
What to Expect in Therapy
How I Help
❤️ Sex Therapy
Helps with desire issues, painful sex, pleasure anxiety, shame, and confidence.
💛 Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
Helps couples stop the “same fight,” communicate with care, and rebuild closeness.
🌿 Trauma-Informed Therapy
Gentle work for sexual trauma, medical trauma, sexual shame, and anxiety.
🧘♀️ Mind-Body Tools
Helps calm your nervous system, reduce stress, and reconnect with your body.
What Clients Often Say:
“Working with Holly has been life-changing. I came in carrying some heavy things, it was affecting my relationships, sense of self, and ability to feel safe in my own body. I felt safe with Holly where I could start unpacking old beliefs and begin to build a healthier, more compassionate understanding of myself. She had empathy, insight, and a trauma-informed approach that helped me begin to move from shame to self-love and acceptance. I can’t recommend Holly enough!”
“Holly is an amazing sex therapist. I am so lucky I found her! I had such a wonderful experience with her as my therapist. I cannot recommend her enough”
“Whether you’re navigating intimacy concerns or healing from trauma, Holly creates a compassionate space where you feel seen, supported, and genuinely cared for. I highly recommend her to anyone looking for a safe, supportive space to heal.”
About me
I’m Holly —
I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor, EMDR-Certified, and a sex therapist in training through AASECT. I help people heal from sexual shame, trauma, pain, and disconnection so they can feel safe, joyful, and close in their relationships.
My space is sex-positive, queer-affirming, and kink-affirming. I welcome all identities, orientations, and relationship styles.
I use proven methods like EMDR and EFT, along with trauma-informed and compassionate care. My goal is to make your healing journey feel safe, personalized, and empowering.
Outside of my work, I’m a travel enthusiast, paddleboarder, horror fan, child-free auntie, and in a happy 6-year interracial relationship. Read my full bio here.
Ready to Feel Close & Confident Again?
You don’t have to figure this out alone. Healing your intimacy, connection, and sexual well-being is possible — and you deserve support.