New Year, New Start: Why Now Is a Great Time to Begin Sex Therapy in scottsdale, az
The start of a new year brings fresh energy, new goals, and the chance to create the kind of life and relationships you truly want. January is a time when people think about improving their health, their stress levels, their routines, and their relationships. But one important area many people forget to care for is their sexual wellness.
If you’ve been struggling with confidence, desire, painful sex, communication, or intimacy, the new year is the perfect time to start sex therapy. This is a fresh chance to heal old patterns, understand your body, and build stronger emotional and physical connection with yourself or your partner.
You are not behind, and you are not alone. Many people choose January to begin individual sex therapy, couples sex and intimacy therapy, or specialized support like sex therapy for men and sex therapy for women. The new year gives you time, space, and motivation to finally take care of the parts of your life that matter most.
Why Start Sex Therapy in the New Year?
The new year creates a natural shift. People feel more hopeful and ready for change. This makes it the perfect time to begin exploring your intimate life with kindness and curiosity.
Here’s why January is such a powerful time to begin:
1. You Have a Fresh Mindset
It’s easier to make changes when you feel motivated and open. A new year often brings that feeling naturally.
2. You Want Healthier Habits
Many people focus on exercise or food. This year, you can also focus on making your emotional and sexual wellness stronger.
3. You’re More Aware of What You Want
The holidays often show us what feels good and what feels stressful. Therapy helps you understand these feelings and build patterns that support real connection.
4. You Deserve a Clean Slate
Starting therapy in January gives you a chance to leave shame, confusion, or fear in the past.
Individual Sex Therapy: A Safe Space for You
Individual sex therapy is a great choice if you want to work on your own feelings, stress, and relationship with your body. You do not need to be in a relationship to begin sex therapy. Many people start alone because they want to feel:
More confident
More relaxed
More connected to their bodies
More open to desire
Less stuck in old patterns
Individual sex therapy helps you talk about topics like:
Stress or anxiety
Difficulty staying present
Fear of disappointing a partner
A sex therapist supports you gently, without judgment, and helps you understand what your body needs to feel safe and cared for.
Couples Sex and Intimacy Therapy: Rebuilding Connection Together
If you want to improve intimacy in your relationship, couples sex and intimacy therapy can be life-changing. Couples often begin therapy in January because they want the new year to feel more connected, loving, and peaceful.
Couples therapy helps you:
Talk about intimacy without fighting
Understand desire differences
Feel closer emotionally and physically
Rebuild trust
Slow down and feel safe
Learn new ways to support each other
You don’t need a “big problem” to start therapy. Many couples simply want to feel more connected and learn healthier communication.
Sex Therapy for Men and Women
Sex therapy is not one-size-fits-all. Many men and women have unique concerns that are easier to explore with a trained sex therapist.
Sex therapy for men can help with:
Low desire
Sex therapy for women can help with:
Low desire
Stress and anxiety
Body image
Shame
Difficulty reaching orgasm
Therapy helps both men and women understand their bodies, improve communication, and feel confident again.
Why Many Clients Prefer Online Therapy
More and more people choose online therapy because it fits their lives better. Online sessions help you avoid extra stress, scheduling problems, and long drives. Many clients also choose online because they feel safer and more relaxed at home.
And one of the biggest reasons people love online therapy?
You don’t have to risk running into anyone you know.
For many people, privacy matters. Online therapy gives you the support you need without worrying about being seen in a waiting room or parking lot.
Other perks include:
Therapy from your couch or bed
No driving or traffic
No childcare problems
More flexible scheduling
Comfort from your own space
Easier to open up emotionally
Great for couples in separate locations
Online therapy is just as effective as in-person care—and often even better for topics related to intimacy and vulnerability.
Online EMDR and Online EFT
Two powerful tools offered in sex therapy are EMDR and EFT. Both work beautifully online.
Online EMDR
EMDR helps your brain heal from stress, fear, shame, or past trauma. Many people use EMDR to work through:
Sexual trauma
Performance anxiety
Body tension
Fear of intimacy
Old negative messages about sex
Online EMDR is gentle and private. Many clients feel more comfortable healing from home.
Online EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
EFT helps partners build emotional safety and deeper closeness. It teaches couples how to:
Understand each other’s needs
Stop repeating painful patterns
Communicate kindly
Feel more connected
Reduce conflict and fear
Build trust
Online EFT works beautifully for couples who want to reconnect without leaving home.
A New Year Is the Perfect Time to Start
You deserve a year filled with confidence, connection, and comfort in your own body. Whether you want support for yourself or for your relationship, the new year is a powerful moment to begin healing and growth.
With individual sex therapy, couples sex and intimacy therapy, sex therapy for men, sex therapy for women, and online options like EMDR and EFT, you can take the first step in a way that feels gentle, safe, and empowering. Additionally, I also work with painful sex, erectile issues, EMDR for sexual trauma therapy, and BDSM/kink-friendly therapy.
You don’t have to wait. You don’t have to figure it out alone.
And you absolutely deserve a fresh start.
Here’s how to begin:
Whether you’re here in Scottsdale or connecting via online therapy from anywhere in Arizona, The Connection Couch is ready to support you in overcoming negative body image and sexual avoidance. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin and to experience intimacy as something positive and fulfilling, not stressful. Individual sex therapy can be the next step toward that change, helping you rebuild confidence and rediscover pleasure on your terms. Here’s how to get started:
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation. This no-pressure call is an opportunity for you to share a bit about what you’re facing and ask any questions you may have. It’s important that you feel at ease from the very beginning, and this quick chat can help ensure we’re a good fit.
Book your first sex therapy session. Choose a time that works for you at our Scottsdale office, or meet with your therapist online from the comfort of your home. In this private, supportive setting, we’ll start exploring your story and tailoring a plan just for you (remember, it’s at your pace).
Begin your journey to a more confident you. With my guidance (Holly, your sex therapist), we’ll work step by step to challenge negative thoughts, practice new techniques (like the ones we discussed), and build your comfort with intimacy over time. Little by little, you’ll replace shame with self-compassion and avoidance with connection. It might be a journey, but you won’t be walking it alone.
About the Author
Holly Nelson, LPC, NCC, EMDR Certified, and AASECT Sex Therapist (in training), has dedicated her career to helping individuals and couples heal from sexual challenges, trauma, and shame. She is the founder of The Connection Couch in Scottsdale, Arizona. Holly believes in a sex positive approach that honors diversity, fosters compassion, and empowers clients to experience authentic intimacy and lasting sexual wellness.
Holly has been featured in major publications such as HuffPost, Stylist’s Strong Women, Well Beings News, and VoyagePhoenix. Through her practice, The Connection Couch, Holly offers compassionate, trauma-informed care that empowers clients to embrace their sexuality with confidence and ease.
Beyond Scottsdale, she also serves Paradise Valley, Phoenix, Tucson, Queen Creek, Gilbert, Salt Lake City, Park City, and Alpine, Utah.